EP 277 — 2025 Design, Live, Thrive Summit for Women: Design Your Life with Purpose (Part 1)

The summit for women to design your life is here! The 2025 Design Live Thrive Summit is a free virtual event where inspiring coaches will help you design your life with purpose, clarity, and confidence.

In this special pre-summit episode, Debbie Shadid and Thais Glenn introduce you to four of the summit speakers and hear how their talks will help you take action in your own life. If you’ve been looking for a coaching event for women that goes beyond motivation and gives you real strategies, this is it!

You’ll hear a variety of topics designed to help you design your life so you can truly thrive, including:

• How to calm burnout and overwhelm with the HEART framework with Stacie Spies-Matz

• Courageous reinvention after betrayal, heartbreak, or major life change with Teresa Runk

• Reclaiming your possibilities and dreams after 60 with Marie Vega-Byrne

• The emotional journey of moms sending kids to college and how to thrive in the transition with Victoria Paton

These women have faced betrayal, burnout, grief, and midlife transitions, and they’ve turned those experiences into tools to help others design their lives with purpose. Their talks will inspire you and give you practical steps you can take right now.

With over 25 coaches at the summit, this is just a preview of the incredible wisdom waiting for you. If you’re ready to design your life with intention, purpose, and joy, this summit will show you the way. Save your seat now: designlivethrive.com

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Transcript

[00:00:00] Hello. Welcome to today's podcast. I am so thrilled to be introducing you to some of our speakers at the Design Live Thrive Summit. The first person I wanna introduce you to is my co-host. We are the hostesses of the Design Live Thrive Summit, TEIS Glen, so glad to have you here.

Oh, Deb, you know how much I love being here with you, and yes, I am the co-host and I'm so excited to be hosting again The Design Live, thrive with you in this beautiful coaches. So this year is gonna be even better and I'm so excited. So let's talk, before we dive into meeting the coaches and kind of finding out the journey that they've been on, I really would like to take a moment and set this stage for what this summit is all about.

A few years ago, after working with many, many women, hundreds of women, really thousands of women, I thought, what is the missing piece for these coaches? And even though coaches have been around for a long time, there still seems to be a disconnect out there in [00:01:00] the world of what is a life coach or any kind of coach you are, right?

We coach all kinds of women in different, you know, certifications and different modalities and different ways that they coach. But it's like, what is a coach really? When we think about a coach, it's like the basketball coach and it's like, no, no, no, we, coaching is so much more than that. So I thought, how can I help people in the world understand coaching?

And really, for my business and my purpose, I feel like my purpose is to help women learn how to market themselves so they can go out and do what I believe they're meant to do, which is coach people and transform the world that way. So I created the summit for two different reasons.

The first reason is I want the attendees, women who know nothing about coaching to be able to be exposed to it. And mostly I want our speakers, friends and acquaintances and coworkers and family members to see the level expertise that our coaches actually [00:02:00] have. To see the power of coaching to see that they didn't just pick this crazy coaching thing because I know we could raise our hands.

A lot of us have had judgment from family members and coworkers and friends, like, oh, she's doing this coaching thing. So yeah, I wanna give an opportunity for people to come and see what experts you are to learn the value of coaching. That's the first part. The second part is it's an incredible opportunity for us to help our clients succeed at a level they have never done before.

Most of our coaches come with no audience. Because of the summit, we're able to actually provide them an audience. And we're actually to help 'em put into practice everything that we teach. So all the email marketing, the social media marketing, they actually become speakers, right? And we help them and hold their hand through the whole journey.

So it's a beautiful experience. Ty, what do you want to add? Oh man, I presented on your very first summit. Yeah. And oh my goodness. [00:03:00] For me. So I have that different perspective than you. You are there to help us and I was the one being helped, and I always say this to you and to all the clients that I can definitely see my business.

Before the summit and after the summit. Before the summit, I thought that I was creating the business, but I really thought that I was, you know, capable of writing emails, capable of posting social media. That was in my thinking and was that whole idea of my self-belief, the self-concept. But when you got me in that summit and you're like, no, no honey, you actually need to send the emails.

You actually need to post on social media. And then I was like, oh, this is what business is like. It's not just believing in yourself thinking that you can do, it's actually you have to do it. so I love the summit. It's one of my favorite things that we do here. Because I can see the transformation and now being the host and helping the clients, right?

Really get all of those slides together and they already know their topics. So it's more like [00:04:00] helping with the tech side of it. It's beautiful. It's just seeing like this miracle happening, right? You come in and you're like, I think I know what I wanna say about this is kind of what I want. And a couple of months later, you see yourself as a professional who knows how to do it, who knows how to market, who knows how to speak about yourself.

I just love everything about the summits. So I just wanna emphasize that I truly believe today that summits are literally one of the best ways to grow your coaching business. And we have proven that because this is our third summit. And you know, we've had clients that have come with email lists of zero and left with email lists of a few hundred.

We have clients that have come with no paying clients who end up gaining clients from the summit. And a fun story is we even have people who get clients during the process of becoming a summit speaker. And how does that happen? It's because they finally start showing up on social [00:05:00] media. They finally start talking about their business, and they have gained respect by telling people.

I'm gonna be a speaker in the Design live Thrive Summit happening on September 5th and sixth. So it's a super, super fun experience. People have honed their skills, but it really is, as Tais said, there's the before the summit person that you are, and then there's the after the summit coach that you are with a business.

Yeah. And also the, this whole idea of your identity changing right as you were going through the preparation for the summit and then getting on that big day and presenting this thing that you have worked, towards. It just changes how you see yourself and that is a beautiful thing to see with the clients.

So I wanna invite you to come, register and save your seat. This summit is free. We have 25 plus guest coaches, and we have some expert coaches, outside coaches coming in, kind of, we call 'em our featured coaches coming in to speak at the summit [00:06:00] as well. It's happening on September 5th and sixth. You can save your seat for free, and I really wanna encourage you, there are a limited number of VIP upgrade tickets, and I tell you what, that ticket is worth gold.

Because with every VIP purchase, you have an opportunity to have two different coaching sessions with a group of coaches. So you get to just go pick the coach that you want. This is, again, the way that you get to experience coaching for $27. So a full year upgrade, access to all the replays, to the beautiful gifts the coaches are gonna give.

And again, two coaching sessions. So for a limited time, head over to design live thrive.com and save your seat.

All right, let's get started. I wanna introduce you to some of these beautiful ladies who are a handful of our speakers. I'm gonna start with you, Victoria. You wanna introduce yourself? Tell us who you coach, a little bit about your business.

Great. I'm Victoria Paton and I'm call myself the [00:07:00] Matreleascence coach. Matreleascence is a big word that just means mothers releasing their children to the world. So I coach moms of high school seniors primarily, who are anticipating, they're already starting to get the feelings of grief and sadness and confusion throughout the senior year.

And I walk with them from, you know, the first day of school all the way through graduation, through the high, the college move in day, which can be really painful, feeling it. A lot of moms are feeling it right now and all the way through till college drop off and a little bit after to help you with the transition.

Um, so I, I started, um, I started to coach in matreleascence because I was that mom. Mm-hmm. Uh, many years ago. I was the one who had asked my sister to come on the flight with me back from California to DC because I thought I would just lose it on the plane. I really didn't know what was going on. I felt confused.

I felt shame. Um, so I just said this, this isn't the way it's [00:08:00] supposed to be. you can be happy and you can be sad. So, um, I developed a program which explains why you get these emotions. It's really important to know why it is happening. Um, you've been a successful mom, you've done everything to get your child into college, and now suddenly you feel so inept.

But there's a reason why the sadness is happening, and I help you go through that, validate your feelings, and help you with some strategies, including carrying the best quality tissues because it's okay to cry. I love that. I love it.

Oh, thank you so much. I tell you, Tyson and I have learned a lot from having the opportunity to help coaches build their business because again, there are so many beautiful ways now that coaches can help, uh, you know, women, women, men, families, children, all ages, all demographics.

Just the power of coaching is unbelievable. Yeah. Even this, right? What Victoria really coaches on [00:09:00] is amazing because you have this idea of, but I shouldn't be sad. I should be happy for my child, right? That's what I worked for, to have this child in college. And, uh, and then you just don't know what to do with it.

All of those emotions, and you think there's something wrong with you. So I absolutely love your niche, Victoria, and you such a beautiful job. Thank you. All right. Stacy, would you introduce yourself, tell us who you're gonna coach and kind of what your story is. Sure. Thank you. Um, my name is Stacie Spies-Matz I'm a psychologist turned coach. Yeah. Uh, and now speaker. Um, and I help, um, stressed out overwhelm people, men and women, um, move from burnout and overwhelm to, um, feeling calm, having more clarity and, um, more self-kindness. Through that process, um, they lead happier, more fulfilling lives, and they [00:10:00] find more meaning and purpose.

So, um, this all started on my own personal journey. Um, really during COVID, I, when I was taking some continuing ed hours, um, as a psychologist, learning about self-compassion. Which, um, I just found to be good medicine for everyone. And that sort of blossomed this, um, interest in coaching and sort of narrowing down, uh, how to help people deal with burnout and overwhelm by learning skills to be calm and kinder to themselves.

So that's beautiful. Beautiful. And how I got here. So I'm just curious, can you tell us the gap or just briefly the difference between, um, you know, we have a lot of coaches, and I'm gonna use this word loosely, that are like therapy counselors, that kind of, um mm-hmm. You know, I don't know, business, uh, that kind of treatment.

And now our coaches. So tell, [00:11:00] tell us what you see for the listener. What's really the big difference between, um, you know, however they identify, again, therapy counselor, uh, that to a coach. What's the difference? So, of course I believe there's a time and a place for both. Yeah, we do too. Have high value. And that was probably the biggest lesson that I learned in this coaching exploration for myself.

I started it more as an exploration to learn what is this coaching thing all about. And through that process, I learned that, um, there is so much value that you can gain from being, um, with a coach who has some specific specialized niche to help you with a specific problem. Now, similarly, you can have problems that you address in therapy, but on some level it will go.

More in depth and can interfere with someone's functioning. I think that's probably the biggest [00:12:00] distinction of when people choose therapy over coaching. Um, in coaching you're going to get more, um, action oriented solutions to work on and you're ready for that at that point. So I don't know if that perfectly, that's beautiful.

That's beautiful. We really agree with you on this one. And Debbie knows I'm really big on, let's separate, right? Like if you are coaching, you are not a therapist. And if you're a therapist, you might not wanna do a lot of the coaching stuff, Joe. But it's, people ask us sometimes, like, which one is better?

Coaching or therapy? It's like, it's just like, if you're asking me what is better cardiologist or a neurosurgeon, it's two different things. There's no one better than the other. Very different, right? What does your client need right now? It might be coaching, but guess what? It might be therapy. Right? So being able to differentiate.

Uh, so thank you so much for how you explained. Yeah. Lemme I, I wanna add too, really quickly, um, you could also [00:13:00] be involved with both at the same time. Oh yeah. I am. Yeah, true, true. I love my therapist and my coach. Yes, I agree. And I think that's a beau and that's how I really know how different they are really.

It's not the same thing at all. But Stacy, you have a beautiful way of explaining the burnout, right? You have like your own framework that you use to, to explain it. Yes. I created, um, the framework called Heart Framework, which talks about how to sort of build in, um, rewiring your, um, nervous system so that you can make changes and live your life differently in a better way where you know how to manage stress better and, um, are more fulfilled because you're doing the things you wanna be doing.

Yes, I, and when I saw your slides and I noticed how that worked, oh, I'm so excited that you will share. Oh, thank you. Your whole framework during the [00:14:00] summit, you were sharing the whole thing and it was very helpful to me to read through and really apply some of those concepts that you were sharing the summit in my own life.

So your talk is one, I'm excited for all of the talks. Yours really helped me, and I know you helped so many coaches and just professionals in general who feel burnout, right? And it's like, what can we do with this burnout? And your framework explains beautifully what you do. Thank you so much. I really appreciate the feedback.

So it's good to hear that, um, that someone's able to use this 'cause That's really what I want, is to get that message out there. So thank you. Yes, of course. Awesome. Thank you. I just wanna point out again that I wanted to have this summit. To help people get respect. But I also knew that coaches should be valued in the same level as a therapist.

And there isn't that same level of credibility. [00:15:00] But when people understand, like, Stacy, the way you're presenting, they understand that. I think coaches, you know, again, we believe totally, there's two different places for those things, and we're not, you know, we're not the ones diagnosing who should go where, but they're of equal value.

They're of different value, but they're of equal value. And I want coaches to have that same level of respect instead of the what I sort of feel like, oh, she's a coach. It's like, no, she's a therapist. You know, fill in the word coach with that sort of confidence that people talk about coaches. So that's my overall goal, is to raise the level of respect to have them be equal to that profession as well.

So thank you for that. All right, Theresa, you're up next. Hi, I'm Teresa Runk and my business is Design new vision and I'm coaching women, courageous women over 50, and I'm focusing on women who are [00:16:00] going through hard times, like betrayal, heartbreak, um, any major changes in life. I know 'cause I've done it, all of those.

And so I wanna help these women get through the tough times and rebuild so that they can reconnect with themselves through their mind, body, heart, and soul, and discover a life that they truly want when that's all their own and feel grounded and connected again. Theresa, you have made some courageous moves.

We don't have to go into 'em this year, what you have done, but so many women talk about change. They talk about the dream that they want to, you know, accomplish the thing that they want that's out there, that they leave out there. Uh, that, and, and even coaches who come and they're gonna have a business, or they are coaches, but they don't actually say, you know what, I'm going all in on [00:17:00] myself and Theresa, you were courageous this year and you just said, look, I, I'm, I'm a coach.

That's it. That's who I am. Through and through. And I really congratulations on making that move. Thank you. Mm-hmm. Yeah. This has really helped me just take that next step forward too. Yeah. Beautiful. I, I love how around this. I am 40 years old, so I'm not in the fifties yet, but I, I can see the sense of feeling disconnected or feeling lost.

Right? And I felt that the beginning of this year, and I was really, it was really interesting to see that. And as what my mom used to tell me and what I hear from women a little bit older than me around these fifties is when it really changes a lot, right? Like you, you are going to that second half of your life, you're really changing everything.

You feel disconnected because it's a whole new person that you are being, and I love how you help them understand that. [00:18:00] So for you, um, by working with you in, you know, with your message, with your marketing and everything, I really get how you are not just giving them specific things to do, but it's more of like, how can you understand yourself in such a deeper level that you can feel more peace, you can feel more courageous, not just by.

Doing things right, not just by transforming your whole life, but really learning how to build that certainty that you are capable, that you are good. And what Debbie was saying about you, you did change it all. Like your whole life got changed, um, around this time around the fifties. And that is how you teach your clients to do this.

But having that backup of you have someone that you can fall on, right? You, you have someone who's guiding you through the whole change, that it's, you know, it is difficult doing it by yourself. It is, it is. And to have someone who actually sees [00:19:00] you and hears you and understands you, that's what's important to a lot of these women because they do feel disconnected.

They do feel that somebody doesn't, um, understand and they just want to feel that connection. Yeah. And that comes from them, right? It's not that somebody can make them feel connected. Absolutely. Right. It's, and that's what you teach them. I love that. Mm-hmm. Yes. I think the word I said was validation.

Don't we all need it? And it's good, it's good to know with these niches that you might be listening to, you know, going, oh yeah, she's speaking to me, is again, that's the connection that you can have with a coach where you're like, you find the one who is really, uh, talking about exactly where you are in your life.

So, uh, thank you, Theresa. Super excited to have you and, and to learn from you as well. All right. Marie, tell us who you are and what you do.

Yes. So, um, I'm Marie Vega-Byrne [00:20:00] and I am the Chief Possibility Officer of Beyond Ruby's Coaching. Um, so I wanna start with, first off, beyond Ruby's Coaching when I first started. Mm-hmm. And I developed the business. It was beyond Ruby's only. Um, and when I picked the name, it was because women are worth far more than rubies and pearls.

And I had a lot of controversy about that with a lot of people. And they kept saying, no, you don't want that. And I went, yes, I do. And I stuck to it and it was, I added the coaching on so that people would have a little more clarity. But I recognized that it was one of the first things that I was doing to stand up for myself and stand out and stay my course Um, because as a chief Possibility Officer, what I do is I offer my clients the opportunity to think about dreams that are possible. You would never think are possible. Um, taking off, uh, the armor, so to speak, and, and the masks that we [00:21:00] all, um, put on, most of us put on because we're taught this is what we have to do.

Um, and I love, Theresa was talking about, uh, working with women over 50 and I'm 68 this year, and I'm saying to myself, Uhuh, I don't want women to have to go through what I went through, and I don't want women to have to feel this way. So my whole goal is to help women to step outside of that comfort zone and know that they're heard, like you said, they're heard, that we are listening to them and that it's possible because I'm living proof.

It's possible. We don't have to do the things that we are told. This is it. You have to do this, you have to go here, you have to go there, and that's it. And that's all there is. No, that's not real. It may be real in the moment that you're dealing with it, but it is not real. We can actually make those changes.

Um, and that's what I, I work with my, uh, the women [00:22:00] that I work with, um, an interesting love. I have a few men that have come back. Um, I have a gentleman who actually signed up for the cook, for the, for the, uh, event. And he said to me, I already put in for the vp, the VIP. He said, because wow, there's a lot of coaches there.

He said, but I wanna work with you. I said, no, no, no, no. Look at all the women and then talk about that part of it, because guess what, you bring another flavor to me and how I can help. I'm having fun with it. I really am. Beautiful. I wanna say yes, men are welcome. I, you know, I talk about the design live, the design Live, thrive Summit for women.

But, uh, I mean, my goodness, it, it applies to all of us, right? It's so exciting. I wanna, one of the questions I wanted to ask you guys is why should somebody attend the summit? And I, look, I, I've just listened to four of you guys, explain what you're gonna do. And I'm like, why would you not attend the summit?

Hmm. I mean, seriously, I can see all of [00:23:00] us getting excited about each other's presentations and to learn from each other here. A hundred percent even, you know, like Victoria, that is so specific for moms. I mean, can we imagine the husband's understanding what is happening to the wife, right? Because yes, it's a way of grieving when you let your child go away to college.

And typically we grieve differently. So just for a man to come in and listen to the talk and understand us, like, oh, this is why my wife is suffering, this is what it means, right? Like, what a loving gesture or learning how deal with burnout, right? It, it's just so helpful for men and women to come and watch and really get to know what coaching can do for you.

Beautiful. And Debbie, I wanted to, um, add on, you know, why wouldn't someone come? First of all, it's free and all. You only have something to gain, right? You have nothing to lose. You only have something to [00:24:00] gain. Yeah, so lemme tell you guys listening how this is gonna play out. So it's a two day summit on Friday and Saturday and you'll actually be on live with our speakers.

So many summits that you might attend, you just get a whole bunch of recordings. But our speakers are actually going to be on live. Now, I wanna assure you, you're not on camera when you come attend. So you can come in your comfy clothes and bring your cup of coffee and your journal and just relax and enjoy and take it all in.

But you also have the opportunity to be engaging with TAs and myself and with the coaches who are here. You can be engaging in the chat and we highly encourage you to do that. Uh, that's gonna be both Friday and Saturday. And I also wanna tell you when you attend live, if your schedule works out. Each day, both Friday and Saturday, we are giving away the ultimate coaching bundle for people who attend live.

So you have an opportunity to win coaching sessions [00:25:00] from all of the coaches that are speaking on Friday, and then a giveaway for the coaches that are speaking on Saturday. So we've made it very enticing to be there. We want everybody to experience coaching. Alright, let's go ahead. And that's how you get to know coaching, right?

It's by experiencing that. Mm-hmm. And that's why we also added this free coaching, uh, sessions for you guys because it, it's so impressive when you can get to talk to the coach that you already listened to that talk and you really enjoyed what they were teaching and really experience the difference that not only listening to something in general, but for you, right.

How does that apply to your life? That is just priceless. I wanna highlight Tais right now because you guys are listening to me as a business coach. And everything I think about is how do I help these women grow their business? How do I help 'em grow an audience, sell their coaching, like make the impact that they know that they're meant to make?

[00:26:00] But as I was in my business and helping women build their businesses, I knew that there was a missing gap and I went and got certified as a life coach. But I also knew pretty quickly like, wait a minute, I am a strategist. That's really where my zone of genius is, is telling people what to do. Mm-hmm. But this mindset part that we're talking about, that's why is here with us.

She is the person who helps with all the mindset, which is what these coaches are talking about. So, Tys, do you wanna talk about your role within our, within the business building boutique? Yeah, for sure. And again, especially as the coaches when they come in, a lot of times they think it's like, I don't need the mindset.

I am a mindset coach. I already know what to do. Right. And what we start to really notice is the importance of the business mindset that a lot of coaches don't have because they're so into their own heads as the mindset and the business mindset coach is a whole different, you know, area where [00:27:00] you, if you don't feel comfortable sharing your message, it's a business mindset thing that we need to work on.

If you don't feel comfortable receiving money, right. A lot of the coach is like, oh, I feel bad charging for this. I just love doing it so much. Well, as an entrepreneur, you want to receive money, you want to do, so we need to change the identity to become more of the entrepreneur instead of only the coach.

That's the idea that we work here together is really shift the identity and, and sometimes we even, I mean, we even shift the identity to such a way that the, you know, the coach might decide that they don't want to do coaching in the first place, right? They don't want to do this, which is okay too, but when we do want, it's very difficult to keep on saying, I want to have a business, I want, and then you don't do it.

Right. That is a miserable feeling that you, you carried on. So what I help you do here in the business is to really be sure, do you really want this? Yes. Yes. Okay. So [00:28:00] how can we become that person who can, right. Or who are doing the things that an entrepreneur would do. And it's really fun to see the shifts, to see that person who, we have one specific client that comes to my mind.

She has been with us for almost a year now, and she started for maybe three or four months. And she was in that place of, I wanted to do this, but I don't have the courage. Right. I wanted to share my message, but I'm not too sure how. And it took her a few months to then like, okay, I will try this workshop thing that we teach.

And then right after the workshop, she became the entrepreneur. Do you remember that, Debbie? Yeah. Like this coach specifically, she just became this. I am a person in business. Oh, I'm actually a business owner. Oh, I am an entrepreneur. That's identity. So that it's not what you learn just with the strategy.

It's both together. And it's not just with the mindset either, right? Just being coach you on the business mindset wouldn't be [00:29:00] as helpful as working together the strategy. And then as you're being coached with the strategy, you have the business mindset coach that is looking, it's like, oh, you're not gonna do it, will you?

I know you won't because this is how you're thinking. So catching that in, right, you know, in real time is very, very helpful for the clients. I think everybody listening that's a coach is like, oh yeah, I wanna build a business, or I am, I'm gonna do air quotes, am building a business. And then you don't realize that you're not actually building the business until you come in with us.

And I just wanna say, uh, as we talk about validation, that the other coaches are helping the listeners have your. The way that you feel about your business and how hard it is and how intimidated you are about talking to people or saying you don't know where to find your people, or I'm not sure if my offer is good and is my price good?

And this niche drama, it's all real. It is all real. You're valid in every way that you [00:30:00] feel as you're starting to grow your business because you are doing things and making decisions that you've never made before. And I think the online space makes it seem like it's just so easy. Like just say you're a coach, decide what you're gonna do and make a hundred thousand dollars.

And it's like, wait a minute. There's so much that goes with it. So I just wanna tell you guys listening, it's valid how you feel and there is a lot of how, right? We're also in this space where, um, you know, manifestation and abundant mind mindset thinking and like put yourself out there and believe. And it's like all of that is true.

And you have to take action. You have to do the stuff to have a real. Legitimate business. So congratulations to you ladies for doing that. Super, super proud of you, really. So tell us, uh, Victoria, what has the actual experience of working through the process of becoming a summit speaker, all of that been for you?

Kind of maybe what a highlights been, maybe what a challenge has [00:31:00] been for you. Wow. It's, it was like a blast off. It really was. I, it was like 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, go. And I just felt confident that Debbie would guide me, uh, throughout the process. And it has been that way. I didn't know exactly the technology. I didn't know how to create a message.

I had a message, but was it the right message? What was I doing it in the right way? So definitely I went from sitting on the sidelines to saying, okay, I'm in, I'm in. Let's do this. And I committed. I've committed the last, you know, three months to really working hard on it and it feels so good. Really. She has, she has been, uh, at the library in a place of quiet, because look, you have to, like, our life is going on around us, right?

In our homes. There's things going on. So sometimes this idea of working at home, uh, you know, I have grandkids downstairs and dogs in my office and all the things, and you have to be able to show up as a woman who has a business. [00:32:00] And so sometimes you have to find a place to do that. And, um, Victoria, I have to say, like I've met Victoria, uh, privately via Zoom at the library a few times.

So, you know, you have really, wow. You've transformed. And also Victoria decided to extend her time with us because of the summit. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Super great. Yeah. So what was the most challenging thing. Definitely putting myself out in public with this, with my business. Definitely sort of saying to people, I have this business and believing, um, you know, no matter what anybody said or, you know, any doubters or whatever, I was just gonna, I was just gonna do it.

And I, I think the technology felt daunting, but actually doing it is kind of fun. I actually, and I love saying, wow, I know how to do that now. Now I know how to do that now. It's amazing the buildup of skills that I did not have before, and now I feel really comfortable about it. [00:33:00] It's the difference between knowing, because you watched a class or you read a book mm-hmm.

And then knowing, because you actually went through, you failed and you learned. Mm-hmm. And now, you know. Right. So it's a knowing and actually really knowing, and we, it feels good. It feels really good. Right. And now can we allow ourselves to feel great as we're building the business? And that's what we talk a lot mm-hmm.

About. Right? It's, yes, it is hard to learn, Canva. It is. But can we allow to actually enjoy that process of mm-hmm. Seeing your growth? And that's where you are. Yeah. Yeah, it does. All right, Stacy, you're up next. How about you tell us kind of what maybe was your biggest takeaway from us supporting you through this journey and maybe what a challenge was for you?

Oh, there's so much. Um, so I started your program, I don't know if you still offer it or not, as a self-starter. Yeah. Um, and. As I had done this with other programs, I'm [00:34:00] so sorry I didn't start your program and just do what you said step by step because it would've saved me so much time. Um, anyway, I finally got there and I did it, uh, the way you suggested, which was very helpful because I was coming at it as I do a lot of times from a lot of different directions, and you give a very prescriptive, structured, well-tested way of creating your business.

Um, so once I got onto that, it was helpful. Now. Not to say that putting myself out there and learning all the tech and doing it myself wasn't a major challenge because it was in my, uh, per, as a psychologist in my practice, I was fortunate enough to have a lot of support and so I never had to do those things for myself.

So that was a whole new frontier for me. Um, and there the empowerment, you get, you say [00:35:00] this a lot, um, to run your own business and know how it runs and to do the things in your business that need to be done, whether you at some point outsource that, but in the beginning not to, and to have the ability and the control over your business, um, to run it the way you want is really empowering.

So that has been so great. So I appreciate that. What, what about a challenge? Tell us a challenge that you faced. Oh, well, this summit has been a challenge. Um, mostly putting myself out there, uh, and also just getting all the pieces together. I've had a lot of these presentations together and I've performed them live.

Um, but this is a whole new endeavor that I wanted to add to my business, but haven't yet. So that is an area for of growth for me. Yeah, well it is a lot of pieces, right? Like there are so many pieces in [00:36:00] business that is not just, oh, lemme just present this talk. It's so much more than that and you actually, you get to do it.

And again, like we said to Victoria, it's not anymore just reading a book or listening to some classes and some podcasts and thinking that, you know, they're like, I need to put in practice. In, in, yeah. And hold on. How do you say that? Practice enterprise. You need to put into a practice and really know that what you're doing is working.

And that's where the empowerment come from. Yeah. And all the pieces of it, like you were talking about, right? The emails, the social media, the various social medias, right? Mm-hmm. Like there's so many different places and that all the pieces fit together, but you need to do them all. Yeah. That has been a growth spot for me.

Yeah. Prea, how about you? Well, um, as you know, I quit my nursing job in [00:37:00] January to go all in in my business, and I thought for months that I was creating my business. And then I, uh, took one of your workshops in May. And went on a vacation and I thought, okay, well when I come back from my vacation, I'm gonna be intentional and I'm gonna get this done right?

And so life happened to me. A big curve ball was thrown at me. And so I decided, okay, I need to move my business forward no matter what happened. And I joined, I joined your group, uh, the business, um, building Boutique Business Building Boutique Business Building boutique. And I joined Business building Boutique.

And then I went on vacation just for a few days and came back. And then I'm discovering I'm gonna have to be in the summit. I'm like thinking. Well, I'll just kind of back out and I'll do it next time. That's my old version of [00:38:00] me always saying that and then realizing, Nope, you're gonna be doing it this time.

You're good doing it now. I'm like, oh, okay. So I needed to really clarify my message in which you really helped me do that, and I'm so thankful. It's like, yes, that is my message. And then. Trying to create all the Canva and then recording and doing the live summit, it's like, I'm actually gonna do all this stuff now.

It's like, yes, it's all coming. True. You are going to do this. And I really do feel now, like I do have a business, like I'm knowing the steps to take to, um, get out there and show people that yes, this is your business after 60, I'm 61 now, and I'm, you know, creating this business. And I'm just like, this is it.

This is the business that I'm supposed to have to help other women. Yeah. On the business side. Right. And you [00:39:00] said something, I don't even know if you guys caught it, but you're like, I, I'm trying to post on social media. And then comes the summit was like, there's no try anymore. Right? Like now you need to post, you need to post several times.

So I think that push that we give with the summit is also so helpful to really transform the identity. Like you said, now you do have a business because guess what? You send emails, you post on social media, you have a calendar link for people to sign up with you. You have, you have the business. Right.

There was no more excuses of are you trying next time? It's like, no babe, you're gonna try now with us. We have you, but let's build that business right now. 'cause that's what you want. Mm-hmm. Let's do it. Yes. Talk about money because I, I am thinking right now, these women, I know the, the coaching programs that they've been part of, uh, Theresa and I are in a coaching program together, and I know the amount of money that's been spent by me and by everybody else.

And I know that [00:40:00] when you're trying to start your business, can you hear the dog drinking water? No. Okay.

I know that when you're trying to grow your business and start it, it feels like, and it's kind what you were just describing, Teresa. It's like you say to yourself, I'm just gonna do it starting Monday. And like, you've watched the trainings and you've been to my free workshops and you've done this stuff, and you're like, I cannot spend any more money.

Like, I can't, you know, and I, I'm very transparent about, like, I just pull out a credit card and pay for it. I can't, I know I'm in business for life and I know that I have to do this. And in any business comes investment. Sometimes there's periods of, uh, flush lots of income coming in, and sometimes there's not, and you just have to fund your business and it's, it's a difficult commitment.

I mean, you know, you feel like you, like, I should just be able to do this, and if I just piece the pieces together, is there anybody here that wants to talk about like getting [00:41:00] over the Yeah, I do have to invest in one more thing. I can share on that for sure. And you know why? Because it's very interesting.

I've taken quite a number of courses over the years. Some of them were very successful. Um, there were a few that they weren't for me. They, it didn't, it didn't fit my heart and my soul. And that I found that very discouraging because I had laid out quite a bit of, um, financial background. I mean, I, I actually leveraged myself out.

Um, and I got into a, a heartfelt program and I went, okay, this is okay. And now I'm looking at this side of it and I sent my slides in and Debbie took a look at my slides and she said, what the heck is this? And I honestly, 'cause I had put into the, um, into the Facebook chat for the group. I know this is messed up.

I know how to do PowerPoint. I couldn't do the conversion. I can't tell you how many hours I spent on this. [00:42:00] Then I finally, and she, in the email, she said, well, you know, we have this program. And I'm thinking to myself, I don't have any more leverage here. I don't, where am I gonna find this? And I went, oh, damn.

Just you are gonna do this. Just do it. And it was the best decision I made because it took the pressure off myself to have certain things done, and then I was able to put more time. I mean, when I got to doing the emails and sending out the, I had fun doing that, why I didn't have to do the whole thing and try to figure out how to do it all.

Um, and, but I was just like, yeah, I, I have to do this. It was, and it was the best decision. Right now, it's been the best money I've spent, the best investment, I should say, uh, because I feel really con, I I got a lot of compliments on the emails already. Um, I've got a lot of people saying, they're so sorry they can't make it.

I said, that's okay. Can you share it with someone else? Can you give it to somebody else? Well, gee, if you can't make it [00:43:00] register anyway, you'll get to listen to the recordings later. I mean, I would, I just, I would not have done that because I would've been too busy trying to figure out what to write. Okay, there's two things I wanna clarify here.

Number one, we have done for you services. So one of the things Marie took advantage of was our done for you services. So, um, uh, we created her slide deck, her, her workbook, uh, her, her gift that she's going to give to the people who attend. Uh, we set up a brand for, we did several things to make that part easier.

That's number one. So done for you. If you need some done for you services, we can take care of you. Number two. I take your financial commitment very seriously, and I am a no-nonsense girl. And Tys is also here to say like, yeah, I know Debbie may have hurt your feelings in what she said, and, but she did it with love.

Like she really, I, I'm so passionate about like, no, if you [00:44:00] pay me money, I'm gonna be honest with you. And I, I was, Marie made a PowerPoint presentation that when she converted into Canva, it got, it'd be horrible up. And um, so, you know, words were overlapped and all this. And I did a video, we communicate with clients via Loom video.

And um, I guess I was direct in saying like, look, do you wanna look professional or do you not? This is not gonna work. And I say that because I love every person and I know, I know how big of a financial commitment it is. One more financial commitment on top of all the other coaching that you've bought.

And I know how much. That small things can make such an impact in people, the, the world seeing you as a professional. And so I am real adamant about that. And, and Ty always says, yeah, she doesn't sugarcoat things. But, and, and you know, I'll be honest with you, it was, it was really good advice. It was, and not just good [00:45:00] advice.

It was good business advice. You know, at first you hear it and you say, Ooh, because you are doing this and you know how to do this, and you're doing, and then you have to, I had to stop and realize that, no, I don't know all these things. I don't know all these tricks. I don't know how to, and yeah, you gotta open yourself up to be accepting.

Um, so like I, my first reaction was like, oh, but then I realized it was a trigger to that feeling of. I was putting up another mask and I went, oh no. If I'm gonna be doing this, I'm taking it all off. Um, so I have to tell you, Deb, I really appreciated it because it, like you said, it was done with love. I didn't feel, um, it wasn't you, it was me.

I pointed the fingers right back at myself and that was a really good, it's a good learning experience that I can share with others so that I can say, Hey, yes, this is a coach that you want to coach with, [00:46:00] and these are the reasons why. Because you are gonna tell the truth. You're not gonna give it to us, and there's an expression.

You're not gonna blow smoke up my skirt. That's a good one. Well, here's the thing though, Debbie, uh, she just mentioned this right now, right? We, we take your investment very seriously, and we bought, Debbie and I, we have spent money with things. I mean, spent five figures and with things that's like, it wasn't for me to say the list, right?

Like it was not for me. And, and I personally don't think it's for anyone. But anyways, the point is we have learned the hard way and we, we have pledged to each other that no one in here will ever be able to say that we didn't deliver. And what we do, it's, it's big. It's sometimes we get overwhelmed.

Sometimes it's burned out. Right? Burned out, right? Like, and we feel like we need to take a break. Let me get back here because you guys are so [00:47:00] important to us. One by one, one of the most beautiful compliments that I have ever received and it it was for both of us, was when I took over Debbie's podcast and I recorded something with some of her clients as a birthday surprise for Debbie, and one of the clients said that she has never felt like she was just.

A number in this group and to me it just changed how I see all the clients because it's like, you are right. You are never a number. We take you your investment very seriously in the fast track in the VIP. Now talk about the summit. I told you guys how much I love the summit. So we are even more picky with the summit, right?

We do give very harsh feedback sometimes, but it is because the summit is truly, I believe that it's where you feel even more professional, even more as the experts. So we wanted to make sure you are getting it quote unquote right. And yes, sometimes the feedback and the very [00:48:00] beginning of the summit, I say to you, right guys, it's like, Hey, put your big girl pants here because we are not gonna sugarcoat.

Like if it's not good, I'm not gonna put my name on this. I'm too perfectionist. So to put my name in something that will be crap. So we are all gonna lift each other up and make the very best summit that we can. Because you can. You guys are that great and you believe in yourself and you're confident. We just need to get what you're saying.

Right? Mary? Mary, the little drama out and just go all in. And that's what we help you do. And we take that very seriously. So when Debbie asks what are the challenges, we are kind of laughing in the background. 'cause we know there are a lot of challenges with us during the summit. We push you guys a lot and for good reasons, right.

Therea, did I skip you? I think I did. When we went to Marie, we didn't talk about your, um, challenges. Challenges and what you about the experience of working with us. Did we, um, well, a challenge [00:49:00] was, okay, wait a minute. Lemme ask, lemme ask. Okay. All right. Therea, you're up next. Tell me kind of what the experience has been for you in the summit.

Maybe what a challenge has been and, and maybe what you've overcome too, what you're so proud of. Well, one of the things, a challenge, um, and that I overcame was creating the slides. My, my first attempt at creating the slides, I, um, did not really dive deep enough and I was kind of like cheating myself, I believe out of, um, actually getting the full experience of what the talk was going to be about.

And, and so I kinda put every word for word that I was gonna put on this slide. Yeah. And, and when I got the feedback, the first thing was like, oh, I kind of thought that's probably what's gonna happen. I'm not going to be able to do this because I had like a hundred slides, maybe a hundred plus. Anyhow. Um, [00:50:00] so I went back and I, I, I went back in and really looked and, and narrowed down my talk and really focused on my message and made it really feel like me.

I had to go take a walk on the beach and really get some clarity for myself mm-hmm. That day. And, and so that was my challenge and to redo my slides. And then I think I had the slides done maybe in a day or some day and a half. And, um, yeah. So I was really, um, I was, I was happy that that experience happened because I really needed that for myself because it was also telling me that this is part of your message, you know?

Yes. I love it. I rem I remember giving you the feedback, Theresa, and what happened in my perspective is when I saw all of your slides, and yes, I did see all the word by word and we're like, no, we wanna talk about this. We want them to feel connected with you, not your slides. Mm-hmm. But not only that is that I have listened to you talk [00:51:00] about your message, and I know how deep the message is.

You truly, you are not coaching women with this life change experience by saying that think nice thoughts or be kind to yourself, right? Like you are so much deeper on how you help those women. And that's what I wanted to see on those slides. So it's not that you didn't know how to say it or what to say, I know you knew because we have talked, but the way you were experiencing those slides in the first try, in the second try was so different.

And I am sure it helped you grow as. That coach that presented a speaker, right? Yes. Because now you knew exactly what you're saying. And not just that, I always talk to the, the coaches here. We don't want the superficial level. I don't like the superficial. Right. Like the same way that I don't like going inside of an elevator and saying, oh, the weather, yes, it's raining.

I mean, come on guys. Just don't say anything. Right? And that's how I felt with these slides. We don't want to know the [00:52:00] superficial, you know, things. We wanted to see what, it's deeper in your heart that you know you can help someone who has no idea how to be helped in your second slides. That is exactly what you transferred, right?

Like there was this excitement and love for the message and for the people that you serve. And your talk is also another talk that I'm, I'm excited for all of the talks. What am I saying? But it's really beautiful. I'm so proud of you. Thank you. Well, I wanna thank you guys for staying here and listening to us today.

I know this episode is longer than our normal episodes, but if you are a coach, first of all, now you know you need to attend design live thrive.com. Uh, so save your seat and upgrade to the VIP because you could have a coaching session with one of these beautiful ladies. First of all, that's amazing, but also you really have seen.

And maybe feel validated, right? What it takes to really grow a business. And, and I think as we're trying to get our [00:53:00] business started, we spend a lot of time thinking there's something wrong with us. Like, if they can do it, why can't we do it? And, and when, when people come in here and do this with us, they're like, oh, wait a minute.

I, I just clearly did not know all that was actually involved. And now I do. So before we wrap up, I would love to hear if there's anything else from each one of you guys that you want somebody attending to know or you want to know about the coaching that you do or the work that you've done with us.

Anything else before we wrap up? Victoria? Uh, I just think that it is, to me, it's like a, like a. Snack bar, you can just choose from so many different things. Every time I look at, at my fellow presenters, I'm like, wow, I'd really like to try that. And some of the, um, the guest speakers, your featured speakers, um, are really pretty special.

They're, I've, I've seen them speak before and, and I've learned a lot from them too. So I think there's just a lot, you know, I think that there's a lot of choice. Yeah. Thank you. [00:54:00] Uh, Stacy, how about you? I, you know, choosing. To do the summit was a big turning point for me. And, um, just the level of support that you guys have given the whole way through and especially here at the end, has really been, um, just so invaluable.

And I'm just so appreciative for all of it. You guys, you work hard. You really, um, I really believe that you care about all your clients, um, and you want the best for us. And so you don't, like you said, you don't feel like a number and, um, and you don't get that. And Lord knows I've taken way too many courses too, so I'm right there with everybody else.

Yeah. So you don't always get that. So, yeah. Um, I appreciate that help. Thanks Marie.

So I'm gonna agree with what, uh, Victoria was saying about the. And I was thinking it's a [00:55:00] smorgasbord. Um, you know, or you go in and you have the, all of the food laid out and you, you know, the buffet and you can pick and choose. Um, and as Victoria was sharing what she was doing, I was thinking, wow, I didn't have a child go to college, but I had a child go into the Marine Corps.

And what would've been different for me had I had someone like Victoria in my life and I was thinking, wow, that's something I would love to, you know. But that's the point as you listening and, and I've been suggesting to all of the people that I'm talking to, is listen to every single coach. Just listen, because it may not be me, but it may be Victoria, it may be Theresa, it may be Stacy, it could be anybody.

You are gonna connect with them. And this is the real deal. This is the real deal. Beautiful. All right, Theresa, you can wrap it [00:56:00] up. Anything else you wanna add? Well, I just think that this is your opportunity to, to go deeper within yourselves. Mm-hmm. And to find someone and connect with somebody who can actually listen to you, understand you, and hear you.

And like I would tell my clients, isn't it about time that you choose you to go ahead and forward to your next direction?

Well said. Well said. All right, Tys, what can you add here? Come to the summit so you'll see what we mean. And not just as the, you know, the person, the audience, listening and learning from somebody else, but also if you are a coach and you think you're building the business, or you think you're growing this business, but you don't see a lot of results, come in and watch the summit as.

Wow. I could be that too, right? I could be one of the speakers and you can, when you work with us, we do open invitations and we Right, we explain to you how this works, but really start seeing the difference between [00:57:00] maybe what you are doing as you are working towards building your business and what it looks like for other people to grow, uh, the business.

And just seeing how the coaches portray themselves in the summit and the work that goes into sharing the summit, right? Posting social media, sending emails, growing their identity. It's so different and it really helped me to see when I thought I was building the business and then working with Debbie, I was like, oh crap.

This is what it takes to build the business. And then the summit is like, wow, this is actually building the business. Like you can really see the, the difference between each stage and I mean, it's up to you, right? We. We know how difficult sometimes it is to make that investment and believe one more time that, oh, maybe I can.

But it's up to you. If you have the desire to have a profitable, successful business for you and that boutique style business, not [00:58:00] necessarily the hundred K business or a million dollar business, but what is your boutique style business? We are here to support you and to help you really create that, right, like the dream that you do have.

And as this beautiful ladies share here with us today, right? Like we know what we are doing and we are here to support you too. So come to the summit if you are. If you just wanna learn more about coaching or if you are a coach and wanted to understand a little bit more of how we do things here, you're always welcome.

Beautiful. Alright, I wanna tell you guys something that you might not know about TAs. Tys might not know. I'm gonna say this right now. She doesn't have any idea. She was a summit speaker and she had worked on building her business and after the summit she started emailing people regularly. She started selling clients, and I can tell you and confirm.

She had a hundred thousand dollars year that followed the summit. So, [00:59:00] uh, yeah, Tais is a, you guys again might not know that. And Tais, I hope that was okay for sharing that. But she put the work in and applied that and, um, thank goodness I captured her after that was all done and said, no, come work with me instead.

So, um, she, she has done the work and that's the result of that. So you get to choose the way you want your business to be. You get to experience it at all different levels. And let me just tell you, we should have a podcast all separate about Tyson's journey to a hundred, and then what happens after that, because that in itself would be a fun episode.

So you guys, thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart for being here. This is a small sampling of our speakers. Next week when you join us, you are going to be hearing from a lot of speakers. We won't have the same depth of conversation. It won't be a repeat podcast. So come and listen and learn from them.

We'll introduce, I, I would imagine eight or 10 other speakers on that next episode when you join us. And, um, just to get you even more [01:00:00] excited to join us at the Design Live Thrive Summit. So thank you. Thank you ladies. Have a beautiful week, you guys. We'll see you at the summit design live thrive.com.

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